I’ve recently been having some thoughts on what “Being All In” really means
Watch this training below to see my take.
Transcript of Being All In by Matthew Poll
“Last week, we did our move.
I had this commitment. This is CJ, dear friend of mine, who made an invitation a long time ago to finally share his spot with me where he finds crystals. And so I’ve been friends with this guy forever. I was like “I need to go here like I need to go experience this.” And it so happened that we got the place that we wanted to move to also. And that the only time we’d be able to move is going to be that weekend. So I created the possibility of both that I would get my move all settled in, I’d do all this stuff beforehand, so that I could spend all day Saturday. But I did have this like, thought, like, I’m going to be moving, I’m going to be lifting boxes, I’m going to be exhausted.
And then I’m going to go do a nine hour hike waking up at four o’clock in the morning to get up there. So that we can be up on the mountain before it gets too hot. And so I had all these stories running all this background noise. I just kept elevating my belief that you know what, I can do it all. And I can have it all. I can do it all I kept looking at how I could prep and was watching my diet real carefully. I had done some i’d kept my exercise routine for those that week that were even moving. And I will tell you, it was probably one of the most incredible experiences physically that I’ve ever experienced being I saw something around what was possible for me that I think I’ve never experienced before.”
Believing the 40% Principle
“I had moved for about 10 to 12 hours the day before on a Friday, Saturday woke up about four o’clock to get up this hiking spot. And we hiked on sheer cliff for about nine hours being no trails, hiking poles. And you can see what I came back with it was probably one of the most rewarding experiences. I’m a big rock founder. And to go here was huge. This crystal that’s on the left was actually just one of about 50 that I found. And it was just this incredible experience and what this place on this mountain was just magical to say the least.
But anyways, what I’m pointing to and what I experienced for myself is this idea. And I’ve heard other people say this, that when you think you’re done, you’re actually only 40% there. This concept that when you think your body, or when you think your mind just can’t handle it anymore, that you’re really actually only 40% that you’ve got 60% left. And I really experienced that.”
The Story Within the Story
“And so a little story within the story, or a little motivational piece inside of my motivational piece today is we really just don’t know what we’re capable of until we push ourselves until we see ourselves in that experience. Now I know, it’s like now I know myself differently than I ever have known myself. It has the experience it has me personally in the experience of like, “Oh my gosh, I can do so much more physically than I thought I could.”
My body, this machinery I’m in, can handle way more than I thought. So I want to talk to you guys about being all in on Wednesday, I heard we did this exercise on Wednesday, and I heard a bunch of people take on commitments. But when I was listening to how they’re taking on the commitment, it just wasn’t landing for me. And I was like, this is not going to work. Like what they’re saying they’re going to do, they’re actually not going to do I could almost predict it. I could almost see it. Not saying everyone, but I would say about 80% of the people that made that commitment on Wednesday. It’s like without this training or without something new. These guys, they’re not going to do this, they’re not going to keep their commitment that they made last Wednesday.
Setting You Up In Your Listening
And to set you up in your listening. How many of you kind of get this. It’s like, I know that I commit to things sometimes. And for whatever reason, I just don’t see it through, I just don’t get it done. Or how many of you this one will be easier to identify how many of you know someone else that they like, keep telling you, they’re gonna do this thing. And they don’t, they never get it done.
Well, this training is for you. Because I found if you have something that you want others to keep your commitments, this is going to be an amazing training for you. If you’re seeing that, like you set goals and you set like life achievements are things you want to see differently in your life and you’re like struggling with it, This train is going to be for you. So let’s get started.”
The Back Door
“I want to talk to you about the back door and hat. I want you to just like tune in on this, like have you ever had someone tell you, they would do something, but the level of commitment was just not there? Like you could almost tell it wasn’t gonna happen. Similar to my experience this week. It was like they wanted to do it, but they also didn’t want to let you down, or they didn’t want to be wrong.
So, they created what I call a backdoor and escape route, right? And backdoors are ways we do not fully commit, or ways we avoid committing at all. It’s this thing that is still there, it’s like I still could escape, I could still get out of this, I wouldn’t have to come in all the way I wouldn’t have to throw.
Climbing The Wall
Another example I’ve heard is like, you want to climb the wall, you want to get over the fence, you throw your hat over, right? You throw your bag over, and outside, well, my stuff’s already over, I guess I gotta go get it. Right, you just commit, you don’t leave a way for yourself to, to get out of this thing.
And in life, we wouldn’t be talking about this, if growth wasn’t something that we were interested in. Some of you might actually believe that you’re not interested in growth. And that’s fine. But everyone actually is interested in growth naturally, it’s not even a choice. It’s a survive, and thrive instinct, it’s part of who we are as being human. And so avoiding growth is very unnatural. And it goes against who we are as humans, and comes with, with many negative repercussions or costs. It comes with an expense, if you’re fighting your natural way of being to grow. And you can look through the eons of time, even in history. That’s just what humans do as we grow.
And when we like put up walls to fight that, that’s when you start having the negative repercussions, that’s when you start seeing declines in health. That’s when you start seeing things like cancer enter the body, and you start seeing a certain disease and things be more become more susceptible to things like that, that’s when those things start to occur. And it’s, it’s actually natural for us to want to grow, it’s natural for us to not have a backdoor, but for whatever reason we do it and we’ll get a little bit more into that.”
Being Like a Child
“So like a child children, and I like that Shawn brought this up also. But children have the most pure form of a natural inner position, like their inner position is so raw, it’s so natural, for example, when a child learns how to speak, they spit out all kinds of variations of words, right?
Like for any of you who’ve had children and been around them, they like, they just throw it out there. And it’s kind of humorous, even right, and after much failing and correcting their grammar begins to improve. We expect kids to do this, don’t we? And we have not made it socially, like socially wrong, like, oh, shame on that kid who said that word the wrong way. It’s like cute, even right. And there are typical timeframes for development of children that we don’t culturally shame them. You know, if they started doing that, and they were like, 12, it’s like, oh, there’s something off there. But like when they’re young, as a society, we just don’t do this with kids.
Being Like An Adult
But like an adult, when now beyond the fundamentals around growing up, we do not offer this courtesy to our adolescent or young adults. Do we like that? 12 or 13 year old, it’s very different, isn’t it? how we approach their growth, especially specifically around the fundamentals of language.
So as society, we use what I call a torture method, and I am using this language intentionally because it is torture, to get the small people to do what the big people want. And it works by relating choices with right and wrong and isolating the child by temporarily threatening their survive and thrive instincts. We put them in timeout, for example, or detention, or we ground them from things or we take something they like something that they value away. Anyone guilty. It’s like, yeah, anyone had that happen to them as kids? Absolutely. But like, culturally, this is how we’ve been raised to handle this. I call it the torture method. And now for most of us, this is how we experienced life.”
The Torture Experience
“I’m not saying it is right, or that there’s not an upgrade version to this however, we evolved from fearless foolish, humble creatures children, to fearful on authentic note all adults. And we created and what this creates is hell on earth. And many of us are still living there. Many of us still haven’t we, we were children, and then we like went into this cycle. And then we haven’t actually found or got access that we get to undo it.
You get to undo it and be like a child again. Now what is wanted for us is to undo this and unlearn this behavior to become like a child and experience heaven again.”
Being All In On Humility
“So I want to talk about this word humble. It’s a fun word. It’s a word I have been playing with quite a bit. And I’ve found that redefining it, or using the definition this way, is actually really helpful. So humble is a curious word. And it is defined as having, or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance. Having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s importance.
Being humble does not mean without confidence. It doesn’t mean that you would do that without confidence doesn’t mean you wouldn’t go out and be confident. But there’s this weird thing that like, people who are humble or not confident themselves are not bold, or don’t have certain types of personalities. And it has nothing to do with that has nothing to do with personality.
Learning to Speak
A child, learning to speak, learns with confidence, and is humble, because they have no issue showing up as the fool. modest or low estimate. You see that? Like humble beans, you’re not afraid of being a fool.
Being humble has nothing to do with sharing what you accomplished. Has nothing to do with that, or even celebrating your victories. Humble is about being modest, or have low estimate of your own importance, meaning you don’t care if you show up as a fool, you don’t care if you fail. Humility is a powerful interposition and is not an identity.
You’re either humble or not. Moment to moment to moment to moment, you see
that? No person is humble. It’s their inner position is either humble, or time from like time from time to time. Like it’s like from here to there to there. It’s like oh, yeah, they showed up humble. They’re, they showed up humble here.”
Performers Are Humble
“Performers are humble, by the way. In addition, I think there’s this fascinating thing, like people striving to be humble, look at performers and go, “they’re not humble.”
That per person, you know, that athlete, that that musician, that business owner, that millionaire, they’re not humble, and it’s like bowl, they probably have an inner position that’s humble more often, more often than those who are not performing. And how can you know, it’s because they get results.
And results don’t come from, from being worried about what people think, or being worried that you might show up as the fool. They get results, are fearless, and they don’t care if they look like a fool. They always know there is a better way. And they have no issue around how they look. To figure it out.
Furthermore, they put themselves out there exposed vulnerable to miss the mark. They know what’s possible, and they just don’t care. What they’re interested is the result.
Are you starting to see it?”
Watch the video above to learn more about being all in!
Matthew Poll, AKA Matt Poll, is an entrepreneur, investor and life coach based out of Silicon Slopes in Lehi, Utah. Furthermore, he is the CEO of GTF, a company which he helped co-found in September of 2008.
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